What we expect, and what we won’t do
Everyone here agrees to the same few things. They are short, they are the whole of it, and we would rather you read them before joining than discover them afterwards.
What we ask of you
That you mean it
This is for people looking to marry, not to date and see.
That you answer
Each proposal stays open for seven days. Saying “not for me” costs you nothing and is never seen — people are allowed to not be right for each other. On the other side of every proposal is somebody hoping to hear, so we ask you to decide rather than let it lapse.
None of this is public. There is no score, no badge, and no standing that another member can see.
That you tell us how it went
Privately, to us, and never to them. It is what makes the next proposal better, which is why the next one waits until it arrives.
One at a time
While you are getting to know someone, you receive no one else. That is the point.
What we do
We verify every member’s government ID, with a live selfie — that specific, narrow thing, and we say it that way rather than calling anyone “vetted”, because it is what we can actually stand behind.
We check every photograph before anyone sees it, and we show it only to a mutual match.
We will not start your plan — or take a first payment — until there are at least three members who fit you, and we will tell you before we do. After that it is billed like any regular plan.
What we will not do
We do not help a married person find another spouse
Every member must be currently unmarried — never married, divorced, or widowed.
Whatever anyone’s personal position on the question, polygamy is a criminal offence in Canada, and a company operating here cannot build a service for it. We are saying this once, plainly, so that nobody has to ask and nobody has to be turned away later.
We do not ask about your past relationships
We ask whether you have been married before — never married, divorced, widowed — and nothing beyond that.
We are asked for more, and the answer is no. A question with one socially acceptable answer collects the acceptable answer, not the truth. It is asked of women far more than of men. And making it optional would be worse rather than better, because a blank would itself be read as an answer.
What two people choose to tell each other about their lives is theirs. We make the introduction; we do not sit in on the marriage.
We do not let anyone browse
There is no directory here, no search, and no way to look a person up — including for us to offer someone in exchange for money. You are shown only as a proposal, to a few people at a time, each of whom fits what you are looking for and whom you fit too.
We do not rank people, and we do not score you
No compatibility percentage, no “92% match”. We propose people who fit on both sides; you decide. A community reference says how well someone is known in their community — it is never a rating, and it is shown only if they choose.
Being honest about where we are
We are starting deliberately small, with a few mosques in the Greater Toronto Area. A few dozen compatible people in one city are worth more than ten thousand scattered across a continent.
So there may be no one to propose to you yet. Your plan will not start, and you will not be charged a penny, while that is true.